Dating apps: why do they burn us out so much?

We've been living with dating apps for some years now. What's more, we could say they've become the most common way to meet people and hook up. But it also seems that being a user of these platforms is a kind of vicious circle. We enter them with enthusiasm, we get a match, we have some conversations and, with luck, a date. In the end, however, we discover it's not what we were looking for, that it makes us cringe or, in the worst case, they end up breaking our hearts. We delete them, clearly stating we'll never go back to the devil's app again, but after a while, we download it again. And so, time and time again, each time with a little less hope.

And perhaps the problem is that we're starting to live love as if we were going to the supermarket. With a simple gesture, we decide if someone interests us or not after having seen four photos and read two sentences. People become a product within an infinite catalog, and we get used to looking for someone who meets an almost impossible list of requirements. When there always seems to be a better option waiting behind the next profile, it's hard to settle, but it's also hard to truly connect.

Perhaps this is what ends up tiring us. Deep down, we still want to believe that love retains a part of mystery, that it's a bit irrational and that it often appears when you least expect it. A mystery that goes far beyond having a certain type. Perhaps there are people we would never have chosen through a screen and who, on the other hand, can change our lives. And perhaps they excite us much more than the guy we met on an app who, on the first date, starts playing the guitar.