Why does the passage of time scare us?

One day, when Sergio was a teenager, he realized that his mother had aged. He hadn't seen those wrinkles on her face before. Time passed inexorably, without him being able to do anything to prevent it. For the first time, the idea that time in this world was finite struck him forcefully, even though his friends hadn't even bothered to think about it. When you are young, time seems static and infinite.Since that day, Sergio C. Fanjul (Oviedo, 1980) suffers from what is known as chronophobia, the fear of the passage of time. An experience that this astrophysics and journalism graduate has captured in essay form in the book Cronofobia (Arpa, 2025), in which he also explores a society that he believes suffers from the same ailment as him: “There are many problems, not only in dealing with dying, but with aging and the fear of the future. The acceleration of time makes us become patients of nostalgia,” he assures.If we stop to think about it, there are billions of people who have preceded us and nothing remains of their passage on earth. Fortunately, we know some names that have achieved something important, but not much more. There are even figures like Shakespeare or Cervantes, who are often little more than a name, perhaps even a pseudonym of another person.This feeling, according to Fanjul, makes many people uncomfortable. “We are very hungry for transcendence and to overcome death compared to previous societies”, he assures. The author believes that societies used to be more communal and more connected with their town and family, so when you died they knew they would live on in others. On the other hand, today's individualistic society makes us feel that if we die, the world ends.The fear of death is inherent to the human condition. “That is why a large part of our culture is related to beliefs and religions that help us understand why on earth we are here for such a limited time,” Fanjul continues. During his research, he has even met people who cannot bear the idea of not having existed before being born.In fact, chronophobia is not easy to digest. He himself admits that he spends every day calculating the years lived and those that, if all goes well, he has left until he reaches death. Even when he goes on vacation, he spends his time calculating how much time has passed and how much is left to finish them. “The idea often strikes me that time has slipped through my fingers, this feeling of 'that's it, this party or dinner is over,' and I think that when I die I will have the same feeling after a lifetime,” he reflects.'Tempus fugit'

But, what is time really? Augustine of Hippo said that he knew what time was, but that if you asked him, he couldn't explain it. "This is the feeling we all have: we function with time, we make an appointment with someone, days and weeks pass, but no one can explain to you what it is," says Fanjul. Many theories have been developed, and the author explores them throughout the essay. Those he likes best are the externalist ones, that is, those that say that past and future are real at the same time, that everything is happening at the same moment. “We are a consciousness that goes through different moments and now we perceive what we live in this moment in time, but at the same time we are being born, living our childhood, old age, and even dying,” he continues. For him, this theory comforts him: “It means that, even if you die, your whole life will be happening and will be eternal, happening all at once,” he clarifies.Be that as it may, as we get older, time passes by faster and faster, and it seems we can do nothing to prevent it. Many studies have been done on this and it is known that for children and young people everything is new, and therefore their brain must always be processing information. This is how time passes more slowly for them. As one stops learning new things and being surprised by things, time begins to accelerate. “If you notice, when you travel the first few days pass slowly, because you have to explore the city. On the other hand, the last ones, when you already know everything, start to get faster and faster,” he points out.However, many people live trapped by nostalgia for the past. For Fanjul, this feeling is very characteristic of our times, when future prospects are very unpredictable. “Between totalitarianism, the climate crisis, and the advance of technology, young people do not see a clear future and look back,” he considers. In fact, the author believes that we live in a society that is both youth-loving and youth-hating: “Youth is idolized and desired, but young people are also considered “useless” and things are not made easy for them,” he criticizes. Finally, the author points out that many philosophers, like the Stoics, have preached that happiness is neither in the past nor in the future, but in the present. Therefore, the ideal way to learn to live in a world where time slips through our fingers is to seize the moment and have a life rich in experiences. "But not the ones they sell now, which are going to a trendy restaurant, but small, enriching everyday things, like being with the people you love, walking, resting, eating well, and taking care of yourself. This makes life more pleasant and time slows down a bit more," he concludes.