Vacation notebook for the non-feminist man

Ask women you know if they've ever had their asses touched without permission: you'll be amazed.

Illustration article Anna Manso.
14/08/2025
Escriptora i guionista
2 min

Activity 1: calligraphy. Take a blank sheet of paper. Copy the phrase: "If you're not a feminist, you're a sexist" a hundred times. The phrase isn't mine, it's from the late Itziar Castro. Copy it until it's integrated. No, dear, there's no middle ground. No. There's no middle ground. There's no middle ground, I tell you. Damn it. I know, it sounds awful when you say it like that. And you'd make me feel a little sorry for that puzzled expression on my face that clearly indicates you don't like the word. feminist nor the word sexist If it weren't for the fact that the macho thing about penis doesn't give me a drop.

Activity 2: write. Give an essay on the topic "Just imagine, machismo has been rampant for twelve thousand years." Go to the library and look for information on the status of women in Ancient Egypt. In Mesopotamia. In Greece. In Rome. In pre-Columbian cultures. In the Chinese Empire. In Europe in the Middle Ages, the Renaissance, and in the centuries that followed, up to our own.

Activity 3: presentation. Stop in our century. Make a PowerPoint, a TikTok video, or an imaginative presentation (yes, yes, yes, you can use AI) based on figures on: the gender pay gap, female unemployment, gender bias in healthcare, figures on reports of gender-based violence, convictions, estimates of what goes unreported. You'll earn extra points if you scan the website of an organization like Dónde están las Mujeres (Where Are Women) and see the bread and butter given to, for example, the opinion space of the Catalan media. Count the headliners at music festivals; photos of meetings with world leaders. Count groups of people and calculate the percentage of men and women. If you fail, you'll count attendance at AFA meetings, course presentation meetings, and meetings with the corresponding tutors throughout the next school year.

Activity 3 (alternative): surveys. If all this makes you lazy, talk to your grandmother. Your neighbor. Your sister. Don't talk to the stranger you meet at the bus stop unless it's to say, "Excuse me, can I come in?" or something like that. See what they tell you. You'll be amazed. From that moment on, ask every woman you know if they've ever been groped in a nightclub without permission. Do the same with men. You'll be even more amazed.

Activity 4: crafts. Buy a batch of clay tablets from the craft store. Have fun creating tablets in the style of Moses and the Ten Commandments, one for each statement of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights. Get inspired and paint the table corresponding to point 2 (Everyone is entitled to all rights and freedoms without distinction of any kind, such as race, color, sex, language, religion, political or other opinion, national or social origin, wealth, birth, or other status).

Activity 5: Conclusion. Finally, do a two-day retreat and meditate on the relationship between activities 4 and 3. Meditate hard. Meditate, meditate. Your head might drop. If you need to, call 112.

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