"Polyamorous people like to play the game on the hard level."

The cartoonist Rocio Vidal, better known as Rocio Rainvart, met her two loves through her great passion: comics. A. is her second-time partner—with whom she lives—and they've been together for 13 years. D. is also her partner and they've been together for four years. They share a Telegram group and often make plans with their other partners, like a group of well-matched friends. "We polyamorists like to play the game on a difficult level," says the founder of Sextories, a publishing house that talks about body diversity, gender diversity, and relationship diversity. "Monogamy is a wonderful option for many people. We felt we liked the possibility, not actively searching for someone, but if life led you to someone you'd heard things about, being able to explore it," she explains. "In a world of body consumption where it's easier to cheat, cheat, and then move on with your life, we find it uncomfortable," she adds.

One of those discomforts, she says, is jealousy. "Jealousy is human and shouldn't be denied, just as it shouldn't be denied in a conventional relationship. The key is managing it and talking about it openly, listening to the other person and addressing their insecurities," she explains. Another discomfort is the prejudices they face. "There's an image of non-monogamous people as people who don't want to commit, and that's not the case at all. There's a huge commitment to taking care of other people, working through insecurities, and managing life situations like: 'Look, it's summer and I'd like to go away for a few days with that other person, how do we manage it and how do you manage it?'" Rainvart adds.

In her case, the joys outweigh the discomforts. "We feel much more true to who we are. We can enjoy the experience of meeting other people and gaining from these experiences. There's nothing more beautiful than seeing the person you love being happy and discovering new emotions," she says. For the cartoonist, ultimately, love "is a space where you can allow yourself to be yourself, a space where there is a selfless will to support and care for the people you love and to be supported and cared for."