"I have a psychopath at home"

BarcelonaHe explains that, "from denial," he read the first paragraph of the ARA news about a young man who was emotionally defrauding young women she met through dating apps. Upon rereading, she no longer had any doubt that the physical description, the mannerisms, and the details described fit the man she had considered her partner for months and with whom she shared her home. In fact, while she was reading the website a friend showed her, he was quietly at home, so her main concern was how to get rid of him without confronting him. "I have a psychopath at home and I don't want to see him again," she stated in an interview with ARA. Hours later, taking advantage of the fact that he had gone out to attend "meetings," she changed the lock on the door and blocked him on his phone. For a couple of nights, she slept at friends' houses, always with a certain fear that he would reappear. Now that several months have passed, the woman, calmer now and no longer afraid of being recognized, agrees to let her story be made public, always with the desire to help other women.

Her friends had never liked that guy, who presented himself as a Spanish-Cuban surgeon and who worked on "missions" that kept him out of town for weeks on end, with no way to communicate by phone. But she always thought her friends were too overprotective of her. Until her friends told her the news about the ARA (Argentine National Aeronautical Association) they had found while searching the internet for information about the young man, amidst suspicions. "Reading that, I saw that he was so much like him; so many things made sense to me! Because deep down, I had also seen strange behaviors and had hooked him with a few lies," she explains, emphasizing that both she and the other women had had relationships "based on flawed consent," that is, deceived.

The great deception, however, she could not have suspected: Jon LL, with whom she lived in her house, was nothing like what he claimed to be, because he is neither a doctor nor has any connection with Cuban diplomacy, nor is he on a humanitarian mission to save the lives of innocent civilians in distant wars, as he likes to claim. In reality, this young man, born in Gernika in 1992, has spent almost a decade without any known activity other than lying through a false identity and jumping from house to house of women, with whom he maintains sexual relationships. From the beginning, he promises eternal love, asks for marriage, to have children, and to meet the woman's parents. "He enters your life, right down to the kitchen; he wants to know everything, he wants to know everyone, but he never explains anything about his life," the women describe. Childhood acquaintances remember him as violent, always looking for fights between men, to the point that many places prohibit him from entering.

Fewer followers

Since the ARA published on February 10 and On March 16, articles about this emotional scammer, a dozen women from different parts of Spain have agreed to share their experiences anonymously. They are women in their thirties who, when they discovered the truth, turned to social media looking for answers. Although they would like to confront the "serial predator" he is, they avoid contacting them. Now, they want to expose him and are moving from rage to action. In fact, in these three months of articles, the man's Instagram account has lost more than 300 followers, and other media outlets have also echoed the story. "Surely many are victims who have realized who he is," the witnesses agree.

The emergence of these women has also served to fill in the blanks and confirm that, when he is kicked out of a house because the woman speaks volumes about his changes in attitude and aggressive behavior, he runs to the homes of other victims or takes refuge with his family in Gernika. "In fact, we all know each other because he talks about many women, but he says they are friends," they say. It has also been proven that he has given away gifts that other women had given him, believing they were for his sister, mother, or a childhood friend. "I'm convinced that it sexually arouses him to give us things that belong to other women, to playfully talk about us with others because it's a form of control," says one of the victims. With the episode closed, they admit that, in part, publishing their experiences has been therapeutic and cathartic: "He's made us feel like we belong to a group, he's blamed us, and he's given us strength because life must go on."