Vador Lladó: "I'm horrified by the nonsense some parents shout at soccer games."

BarcelonaIf you walk into Alex's room today, you might find anything. Any day now, I'll find an Ondas Award under the bed. He's very messy. Plus, he has this strange ability to make you believe things are more or less in their place, but when you open the closet or drawers, you see everything is a mess. Gina's room is tidier, although I think she's slowly picking up some of her brother's bad habits.

Disorder has no solution. The universe already has a certain degree of entropy.

— You have to insist and insist again, because when you let your guard down, chaos spills out of the room. I also have to confess that as a father, I'm a bit soft. Every party they throw me makes me forget about the whole thing. Now, there's something else about Alex that I don't quite understand.

Which?

— How can he make his bed so badly? I've taught him a thousand times how to do it, but there's no way. You see his freshly made bed and think, "Maybe it would have been better if he had left it unmade." His bed is better unmade than after he tried to do it. It's a disaster.

And Gina, is there any mystery to her?

— I find it disturbing to discover that at any time of day or night, five weekdays and weekends, whether summer or winter, there are always two or three items of clothing lying on the floor. I can't understand it. A gesture as simple as picking up clothes and throwing them in the laundry basket doesn't quite fit with their way of understanding the world.

Do you fight a lot?

— Although they love each other, they pick on each other a lot. The older one is more concerned about the younger one because he's already in his pre-teens, and sometimes it seems like his little sister bothers him. He's almost angry at the world. He gets angry when his sister kisses him. They both have a strong character, which is a good thing. Now, I don't take fights well. I feel like they're betraying each other.

Does it intervene?

— When they get really intense, yes, of course. When there's bad language, when they start pushing each other and can't control their behavior, then it's a may Day In these cases, it's best to each person go to their own room, their own space, so that tempers can calm down. After a while, more calmly, everyone tries to put themselves in the other's shoes. And the truth is, it often works.

Extracurricular activities are another big topic.

— I don't have any preference in this regard. Let them do what they like and what motivates them. Gina has been skating for many years, now she does dance and gymnastics. Alex used to play soccer, more to spend time with friends than as a hobby, and he had to sit on the bench a lot, and that, the fact that there's so much competition, I don't see that clearly either. All children should play. And another issue is the silly things some parents yell at games. I was horrified. Luckily, he's now taken to cycling, and we're aiming for that.

The clothes.

— Well, honestly, there isn't much of a problem. Gina prepares the clothes she needs to wear the next day herself. The boy is a different story. He prefers me to prepare his clothes for him; he looks at them, and they're usually fine. It's not that he lacks judgment. It's more a matter of laziness. It's always easier to have someone else do things for you.

And the brands?

— There are always those who are more fashionable at school, but we don't go crazy buying expensive clothes. Alex wears out his clothes more, especially his sneakers, which don't last very long.

How does the day begin?

— We've got it pretty organized. The first one up is the boy, who likes to get up early, already has his bag packed and sets off at seven-thirty just to catch the bus. Gina struggles in the mornings. She doesn't wake up well. She gets a bit short-tempered, and I don't have any techniques. I treat her with the best of care. Then it happens to her.

How has fatherhood changed you?

Being a father has made me completely reinterpret my life. Now I have only one priority: both of them. Their happiness is mine. I live to teach them values, respect, and, above all, to be good people. You never quite get over the feeling of not being a good enough father. They are my everything.