Who were you talking to?

I read in the NOW The conclusions of the latest Youth and Gender Barometer. It asks about partner control, and here, of course, the device called mobilewhich is the center of modern relationships. We meet because we start following each other on Instagram and break up via WhatsApp. If we look at the figures, 32% of young women say their partner has gotten angry because they didn't immediately answer messages or calls, compared to 17.5% of young men. It makes me laugh that it's emphasized that it's young women. Older women can go six months without replying, and their partner won't even notice. But here's the thing: 27% of women say they've checked their partner's phone, compared to 17% of men. 26.6% of women have told their partner who they can and can't talk to, compared to 17% of men.

When surveys like these come out and men outnumber women in checking phones, we talk about "control." I'd say that what young and old people of both sexes are doing is just plain old jealousy. The feeling of possession; The feeling, above all, of disloyalty from the other person. In this sense, many girls, inspired by TikTok content creators, set traps for their partners to test their fidelity. A friend, or they themselves using a fake name, sends a message to the guy in question (via Instagram) explaining that they've seen him, that they think he's cute, and asking if they could meet up. Often, they post the result of the deception on their profile. With this, I simply want to say that controlling a relationship isn't a matter of sexism. And that jealousy, if justified (if the other person is a womanizer), I understand perfectly. For me, again, the problem isn't the relationships. It's the cell phones, often more important than the relationships.