Often in consultation I encounter an idea that repeats itself much more than we would like: people, especially girls, who explain that during sex they “see themselves from the outside”. As if, instead of living the experience, they were observing themselves in the third person, paying attention to how they move, whether they are doing it well, how their body looks, the light, the posture. This has a name: spectatoring, or the spectator effect. 

Most of us will remember the scene from the movie The Intouchables where the protagonist reaches orgasm through ear stimulation. But... to what extent is this real?