There are painful questions that only those who have experienced the death of a partner can answer. Which side of the bed should the surviving partner sleep on? When should you throw away the toothbrush of the one who has passed away? How do you set the table when there are no longer four of you, but three? Tessa Harry and Montse Clotet's partners, Josh and Aleix, died seven years ago, when Tessa was 30 and Montse was 42. They met in a bereavement support group a few months after their respective losses. Both had a strong and supportive network around them, and yet they felt profoundly alone. "There are situations that are difficult to understand if you haven't experienced them. Grief is very lonely, and everyone has their own way of coping," Clotet points out. The bond they forged helped them move forward and connect in a special way. "We would send each other a song, or a picture of a book we were reading. That was all it took; we already knew what we were saying to each other," says Harry.