"No, I don't want to run, because I'm too competitive, and in races I want to win," the teenager tells me. But he doesn't train, he doesn't run. His thing, well, isn't being competitive. This is about not wanting to lose when he deserves it. Which is very different. If he participated in a race, he would see that there are people who have trained more than him. That there are people, in fact, who live to train. It's normal for them to run more than him. Being competitive is working or enhancing your talents to win. What the teenager is telling me is that he doesn't like losing when he deserves it. And, therefore, he prefers not to compete.