Today I begin with some uncomfortable data: 25% of the adult population has suffered physical abuse in childhood, and 18% of girls and 8% of boys have suffered sexual abuse (UNICEF, 2017). Polish psychoanalyst Alice Miller delved into the concept of Black pedagogy, which she defines as a parenting model based on emotional repression, humiliation, and uncritical obedience, where violence (physical, verbal, or symbolic) is presented as necessary for education. This pedagogy not only wounds, but teaches us to justify the wound ("They did it for my own good," "The standards of the time were different"), and in this way, the pain is buried under a layer of loyalty, and the cycle of violence can perpetuate itself unchallenged.