The last week of August two years ago, while we were finishing our vacation, Meritxell went for a doctor's appointment. She had a lump in her breast that might not be a benign nodule like some she'd had before. The first week of September, they confirmed it was a tumor. From the very beginning, we chose to share everything we learned with our daughter. She knows that the medical appointments and tests are meant to determine what the lump is and how it can be made smaller or removed. Meritxell shows it to her and lets her touch it.

"I'll bring you some nipple shields because you won't be able to breastfeed properly with those nipples"; "If you can't breastfeed, it's okay, we'll bring her a bottle"; "Your milk isn't nourishing her enough, we'll bring you some formula milk supplements." These are some of the phrases that women hear most often when they are trying to breastfeed. What is supposed to be a calm moment to be able to figure out how to feed their baby with their own body becomes a coming and going of people who give their opinions with the intention of helping but, in the end, without stopping to listen and find out what the mother needs.